Well, are you charging your worth? My recent article and video about that very topic (called asking your boss for a raise) triggered a lot of feedback!
I think this is so important I wanted to give you a tapping routine you could use for 1 week straight….like a cleanse…and really INCREASE your inner self value.
Oh, this is the good stuff!
And when you are self-employed it’s even more important to work on this because you are setting your own prices every day!
Let me lay down a FACT and a RULE.
The RULE is that as you grow in your expertise and experience and amazingness, you CAN CHARGE MORE!
But too many of us don’t!
We are women on sale, still charging the “beginner’s price” even when we are rich with experience and perspective, intuition and BRILLIANCE.
I really am on a mission to change that…through both the internal shift and the strategies! That is why I have a whole chapter in my book Tapping into Wealth delving into YOU WORTH and money! (you can find my book at www.TappingIntoWealth.com)
So here’s an exercise to set up your 1 week tapping routine:
Imagine standing in front of your next client and telling them you are now charging 30-40% more. How do you feel? Is there any embarrassment or anxiety? How about guilt for asking for more? Now visualize the client’s reaction…are they shocked, skeptical, annoyed with you or maybe even horrified with the “how dare you?” look.
Take some notes on what you see as this is showing you your programming!
When you can shift this INSIDE you clear the way to charge your worth in a way that will be accepted and VALIDATED by your clients.
Yes, that is REALLY what happens! I personally have hired various women of the past 5 years and told them, “I am paying you MORE than your bill because you are so good, the value I got is huge AND you are undercharging and I won’t be part of that as a wealth coach!”
YUP, I don’t play along with other people’s wealth wounds! I VALUE great work and allow people to VALUE my great work. Can you feel that?
PLEASE LEAVE ME A COMMENT…what you do you thing about this topic?
Here is your tapping routine – use daily for 1 week just like a cleanse!
Tapping to charge your worth:
There I am, asking for MORE money,
Asking to be paid more
Downright demanding my worth
Oh my!
That feels scary and weird
And nobody will like it
People will be shocked
People will be horrified
People will be mad at me
People will run away
I will end up with less money
Oh that seems REALLY true
And I am just honoring that belief
Cause it is limiting me BIGTIME
I offer this belief up to the divine
And all my fear about it
And I am tapping it away!
I am afraid to charge more, it’s okay
I am worried about being judged, it’s okay
I am fearful of their reaction, it’s okay
I believe it will never work, it’s okay
I feel guilty and embarrassed, it’s okay
I feel like I am breaking a big rule, it’s okay
It’s all okay, I can re-wire this!
I honor my value
I honor my expertise
I honor my money
And the way I value the expertise of others
I can see when something is valuable
And others can too
I now allow them to see MY VALUE
And the fabulous way I honor MY VALUE
Yes, I deserve to get paid MORE
Yes, I am open to getting paid MORE
Yes, I will allow others to pay me MORE
Yes, to clients who are READY to pay me MORE
Yes, to easy naturals ways of asking for MORE
Yes, to strategies that bring me MORE
I am valuable
I am awesome
I am talented
I am thoughtful and dedicated
I am smart and intuitive
I am rich with experience
I am valuable
I am giving my best
I am deserving of the best
I am give greatness
I am deserving of great reward
I am earning more and more everyday
It’s crazy and awesome and I love it!
Great Tapping Script!
I love the topic.
For the last two years, I have been offering my services for free under the auspices of helping others, and I don’t have enough experience to be able to charge. After spending my time, money and resources, I finally decided to ask to be paid. Not a huge sum of money in the scheme of things given all the work I do. And, I wanted the money to re-invest in my site to help it and my clients grow. It has been nothing but anger and rejection. Thank you for posting this today. Although, I don’t know what to do next, I am finally valuing myself and want to be valued. I understand, I might have to start over and move on, but I am not giving up. This has helped me with my own hurt and sadness as I deal with this painful time. Thank you! Thank you! For making me feel not alone…
Hello Margaret – really enjoy all of your tapping videos and information. I don’t charge what I am worth mostly because the area that I live in near Ottawa, Ontario is low income people. I know that may be an excuse, however, I love where I live and my home, so moving to the City or area with higher income doesn’t work for me. I do have a website which I have included and have considered offering remote healing sessions. I am a Reiki Master, teacher for 20 years and love the spiritual side of the energy work.
thanks
Dorothy Allemang
I just had the most amazing breakthrough using this script. I will continue to use it for the rest of the week. Thank you for your generosity, Margaret.
Who we really are is fabulous, open, bright, brilliant and worthy of every blessing in the entire Universe. Thank you, Margaret for shining your light on this idea today. This is a great round of EFT and I sincerely appreciate you being willing to share it with us. Thank you.
OMG… I so need this cleanse because I raised my rates by $5.00 a few months ago and I’m still edgy about it.
Thank you Margaret once and again you’re right on target and time.
This is right on time. I have been up and down with the way money is coming to me lately…it’s like really???? Dangle the carrot in front of me and then take it away. I have gone back to the limited and lack thoughts again, so thank you for this. It is perfect. I am going to do it again and I like the suggestion of doing it for a week. I will probably do it longer than that.
Cheers!
Wonderful, Margaret – you really hit the nail on the head with this one. It can be a minefield walking between wanting to help people and wanting to help ourselves. And this posting spoke to me about this dilemma – the “dare I?” syndrome. Thank you so much.
Blessings Dawne
That made me really HAPPY!
Thank You!
Thank you for posting this…it’s timing is perfect.
Margaret, I am a business owner and keep my prices low. Many folks have told me that I do not charge enough for what I bring to the table and that is true. I run a small residential cleaning business that uses only safe products for cleaning. My son works with me as a sub contractor, so I am my only employee. I have been told by business coaches to charge more. Every time I have done that I have lost clients. This is the truth of the matter. I am encountering competition from illegal aliens here in the South and they live in abandoned apartments, sometimes as many as 20 living together. They pay no income tax, nor do they pay licensing fees for the city and county. There are few folks out there as clients who recognize what I provide. And the ones that do are hard to find. I’ve been in business for over 24 years and have learned so much about what chemicals harm the body and which ones do not. I’ve experimented with many safe substances, putting together formulas that work better than each product alone. Educating folks to the dangers in commercial cleaning products has been a challenge. Everyone tends to cling to their “brand” and do not want to believe that their favorite company might be lying to them. Overcoming that resistance has been my mission for all these years. When Obama took office and the sub-prime scandals began to surface, many of our clients lost their jobs. My son was one of the casualties as he was at Linens & Things as a manager. He’s only making 1/10th what he made there and has a little daughter to take care of. I have tried tapping to help myself feel comfortable about charging more before and while it helped me to feel comfortable asking for more money, it did not prevent clients from saying that they would go elsewhere for a lower price because they could not afford it. In 2006 we were doing a rousing business. I had a full schedule, Saturdays included and three sub contractors working for me. Losing clients hurt those folks terribly as one of them had two ailing parents she cared for, one had a special needs child, and the other was also a single mom. Telling them I had no work for them was the hardest thing I have ever done. I think about the children who have to be hungry, people who had to move because they no longer could afford their dwelling places. Margaret, you are living in a fantasy world if you think this tapping thing will work across the board. Believe me, I used it for weeks and all I got were fewer clients and less income.
Its is so great. I am trying to get into the new Starbucks that is being built in my area. I want to be a manager. This has so helped me. Thank you, Thank you!. Helps boost my confidence.
Tapping blessings to you!
Jo
Think this is a wonderful exercise. I am just starting out but think im undercharging for my service. However I am fearful if I charge more clients wont come and I will never get off the ground. The visualisation exercise brought a sense of panic but loved the tapping. Will see how I feel after a week,
Thanks as always Margaret x
I like let me finish the week Thank you I love you.
This is so true. I feel cringey and uncomfortable when increasing my prices.
Obviously I have money issues, from my childhood, and am trying to tap
through those. This is an exciting exercise to do. I look forward to seeing the
results.
Hello Margaret,
Thank you for this great tapping sequence to “raise your game”
This was “just what the doctor ordered”
Thank you very much xxxx…..:-)
Love & Light to you always
Loverel (Love)
Love the words Margaret. It gets right into the heart of the concern. Always good and concise wording from you and it is SO helpful. THANK YOU xoxo
Thanks Margaret! This is a really valuable work. I know I’m going to ask for my real value since now.
Juicy stuff! Thanks so much for sharing this tapping cleanse with all of us, Margaret! I’ll be sure to circle back and share my squeaky clean experiences that resulted from this lil’ “experiment”. 😀
I think that’s powerful! I loved it; just by going through the exercise, I could feel myself worthier of earning more money! Thank you.
Margaret, I’ve just recently started hearing more from my own clients as well that they are willing to pay me more – and I declined!!! Time to tap on this and boost up inner qi in being okay to asking for more. This couldn’t have come at a better time! Thank you!
A commenter named Lucy said she used this and got fewer clients for the effort. Of course it is impossible to assess if there is actually a cause and effect relationship there. And that is my issue with the whole EFT industry. WHERE IS THE EVIDENCE? Any evidence at all, beyond anecdotal reports of feeling better for the time being? Despite my efforts I find zero evidence of any relationship between the tapping and an outcome. No scientific studies, no statistical comparisons, no review of the literature (such as it is), nothing at all that supports the many promises, insinuations and magical statements regarding the impact of EFT. I do not have an established bias against it yet and am open to the possibility that there may be some evidence that I haven’t found yet. So folks, pay attention to the insinuation that if it is not working for you it must be because you are not participating sufficiently. The truth is that this is a simple technique that creates a short term effect, which varies among people and will not lead to significant behaviorally different outcomes. Confidence comes from MASTERY not from repeating sentences to yourself while tapping body parts. The tapping is just something to do while you organize your anxiety and fear temporarily. IMO!
Hello, this is right on time! Is there a video for this available yet?
Hi Margaret,
Just want to say how much regard is lost when you will not approve my questioning comment. Too bad you seem unable to handle a little push back asking for EVIDENCE that what you are teaching is worth all the money to buy the book and take the courses. Thought you were for real, now I am doubting your integrity. Questions are good but not if they are stifled.
Very disappointed in your decision.
Perhaps you could do some tapping on your fear of being questioned and not being open to responding.
Perhaps I could suggest a script for you?
Just sayin’….
Love the script! Oh…. so hard to say so obviously……. 🙂 Today’s the first day so will post at the end of the week. Margaret…. thanks for your enthusiasm and passion!!!!
I didn’t realize so much stuff would come up for me. Although I started tapping to increase my money value, what came up for me was sooo unexpected. I have more work to do (obviously) since my very core worth, and value as a woman and as a daughter came up (dad is dying of cancer as I am writing this).
I am so appreciative of the heart opening work that you do. Thank you for YOUR WORK and the love and passion you put into it.
I found information with real results regarding PTSD (they have been working with war affected vets). I can see why you would be skeptical as I have found many people whom I explain EFT to that feel the same as you.
Good luck Nancy. I hope you find what you are looking for!
Hi Margaret and everyone!
I have been doing the cleanse since last week. My question to anyone who may have feedback and Margaret, “is it normal to have your skin start breaking out when doing an emotional detox?”
Not sure if this sounds strange but since I’ve been doing this cleanse and additional tapping this past week, my skin has suddenly began breaking out. My diet and environment have not changed. I’m not alarmed by it, I’m viewing it as a process of emotional cleansing. I am taking steps to normalize it, but was curious if this was normal or if anyone else has ever experienced something like this.
Thank you all, love to all!
Diana
Hi Diana,
It is perfectly normal to have mild side effects like break outs, runny nose and even diarrhea during an emotional cleanse. On an energetic level we have a similar model to our physical body, we take energy from our environment (what we see, hear from people, feel, and think) we process it take what we need and release the unwanted parts. Luckily these side effects are temporary and pass quickly as the emotional blocks are released. Good luck and keep up the good work.
Margaret
Nancy you wrote that despite your efforts you have found no evidence of research showing tapping to be effective. I guess you didn’t look too far! In fact, there is extensive research on EFT, with over 55 research studies published in peer review journals and at least 21 of those are randomised control trials which is the gold standard in scientific research. Here are a few things to get you started
An excellent review of current research by David Feinstein just published in Review of General Psychology:
http://innersource.net/ep/images/stories/downloads/Acupoint_Stimulation_Research_Review.pdf
The research section of ACEP – Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology:
http://energypsych.org/displaycommon.cfm?an=5
Research section on EFT Universe:
http://www.eftuniverse.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=18&Itemid=21
That should be enough to get you started!! The ACEP and EFT Universe sites have information on heaps of published research studies on EFT and the Feinstein review was published in the American Psychological Associations own journal!
Steve, Thank you for posting links to the studies. I’ve been tapping with Margaret for a couple of years and have had outstanding results.
Kudos, Steve. Negative people look for negativity, period. So why in the hell are they surprised when they find it?!?!